Sometimes I know what I want to say.
Most of the time I don’t.
Because the actual truth is, I have SO MUCH to say. My head is filled to the brim with things I want to say to you, with new things being added all day long. Every time someone says something stupid, every time I witness a situation in the grocery store, every time I get a message from a client.
I WANT TO TELL YOU ALL THE THINGS.
I want to SHARE all the things.
I want to help you with all the things.
But –
I don’t.
Because if I did, I don’t think I would ever, EVER be done. And so I must stop myself and ask “do I really need to say this?” before I share anything. As if I didn’t, well.. Facebook might blacklist me for all the shit I’d be throwin’ down over there.
The sad thing (or maybe a good thing?) is that I am triggered ALL THE TIME.
Something can set me off and fuck up my whole day in an instant.
I’ve had to work really damn hard on myself to get to the point I’m at now, where I’m only pissed off/annoyed/irritated AF for a few hours instead of all day long.
I see lessons in every situation, both good and bad.
I see lessons for everyone.
I see lessons that I feel called to share.
Because my mistakes are lessons for others.
Mistakes made by others are lessons for me.
And I’ve honestly felt some shame about the sheer lack of lessons I’ve shared with you. As I’ve learned so many and continue to do so!
I see things and I think: “I need to say something.” And sometimes I do. Especially if it REALLY irritates or excites/inspires me. But more often than not, I don’t say anything to you. I used to think it was because I was waiting for something “big” to come around –
Something you would ooh and ahh over.
Something you would share with others and would help make go viral.
Something you would read and think “yeah, I like her”.
But today, as I read yet another Facebook post about how OMG EVERYONE IS SHUTTING DOWN THEIR FACEBOOK GROUPS, WE’RE ALL DOOMED! and I just snapped. I let it all out in the best way I knew how: my journal. And then I told myself off for being such a hypocrite and not sharing all of my thoughts.
And so here I am, sharing my thoughts.
About Facebook groups. But mostly, about minding your own fucking business.
Who gives a shit if so-and-so shut down her Facebook group with over 10,000 people in it? You know that was THEIR group, right? You have NO RIGHT to be mad at THEM for doing what they felt was right for themselves. Get the fuck over yourself, Diva.
And also, who the hell cares if “everyone” (HA!) is shutting down their Facebook group? Why are you even paying attention? If you showed that much attention to your own damn group (and business in general), you’d be rockin’ it, and wouldn’t even have time (or the desire) to pay attention to what someone else is doing. Stay in your own freakin’ lane and mind your own business.
Facebook groups are still one of the BEST ways to grow your community and get paying clients. You’re a fool if you think they’re “dying”. They aren’t going anywhere. In fact, they’re only getting better. 🙂
But –
That doesn’t mean you should start one either. Even though I believe that everyone can benefit from having a Facebook group of their own, I don’t think that most people have what it takes to create and maintain a successfu one.
Just take a look at the groups you’re a part of right now. How many of them do you actually enjoy? Likely only 1 or 2 out of probably DOZENS, am I right? That’s because those 1 or 2 group leaders know what the fuck they’re doing in terms of keeping their peeps happy.
I guess what I’m trying to say here is 2 things:
#1. Say what’s on your mind. Even if you think people won’t care (what are you, a mind reader??).
#2. Mind your own business and focus on what’s working well for you. What other people are doing (or not doing) is irrelevant to you.
And with that, I’m off to finish watching a princess movie (shoot me) with my gal, spend time with my clients via FB messenger (some AMAZING shit is going down for a few of them and I’m SO excited I’ve gotta be kept in the loop!), and then a fire by the water before bed.
Wishing you the happiest of Thursdays.
And also urging you to please SHOW THE FUCK UP. Every day. In any way that feels good.
Always.