MOTHERFUCKING COMMITMENT TO THE CAUSE

I’m gonna ask you a question point-blank and you’ve gotta answer honestly, okay? Don’t lie. You’re hurting yourself more than anyone else, if you do. 😉  ARE YOU REALLY DOING ALL THAT YOU CAN? I mean, truly doing every single thing you know how to do in order to create the life and business that you want.. are you? Yep, I’m talking about the WORK, and yes I know I just talked about the work the other day, but I’m gonna talk about it again because most people are NOT doing the work (maybe you’re one of them), and need a good kick in the ass about it. That’s what I’m here for, of course! Always happy to deliver a needed ass-kicking. 😉 Listen: Doing the work is CRUCIAL. Staying the course, one foot in front of the other, taking consistent, persistent, aligned action, day in and day out.  You must give ALL that you have - this is your freakin’ LIFE we’re talking about here! Do you want it to be amazing? Then you’ve gotta WORK, bitch! {Channelling my inner Britney right now.} Don’t be afraid of the work. In fact, if it’s work you LOVE, it won’t actually feel like “work” at all - not in the sense that it feels like a burden, which it DOES for most people, and that’s because they aren’t doing their SOUL work, but instead doing “surface work”, just to pay the bills. Gross. Some days it may feel like a pain in the ass and you REALLY won’t wanna. Do it anyway. These are the most IMPORTANT days to do...

How To Create Your Dream Life & Experience Abundance Like Never Before

Sometimes I look back at how my life was just a few years ago..  Pinching pennies, trying to save on every single thing I bought, celebrating a $1.95 purchase instead of paying the full $2.  Truly believing that I needed to work hard, work often, work tirelessly, to make 6-figures (and definitely 7-figs and up). Reading personal-finance and frugal living blogs (including writing for my own!), soaking up how to save more money, which often meant cutting out things from my life that truly made me happy, just to save a few bucks a month. Hating the rich and seeing them as slimy, greedy, selfish motherfuckers that shouldn’t be trusted (I’ve since learned the complete opposite is true, and I love rich people - and am friends with a few of ’em and know first-hand how the stigma around wealth is total BS). Spending so much time doing shit I hated, just because I thought thay I HAD to, including cleaning my own house (say WHAT?!), cooking all my food (WHAT!! unheard of!), doing work I was no longer passionate about, letting people verbally abuse me and treat me like crap, because “they pay my bills”.  I look back and I feel so sorry for that girl.  I feel sad for her. For all that she believed was true about herself and the world, but that wasn’t.  I feel outraged for her that she allowed others to walk all over her, abuse her emotionally and verbally, and suck all of her happiness out of her soul. I just want to go back and hug her and tell her that...
I THREW MY FUCKS OUT THE WINDOW AND CREATED A MULTIPLE SIX-FIGURE BUSINESS BEING ME!

I THREW MY FUCKS OUT THE WINDOW AND CREATED A MULTIPLE SIX-FIGURE BUSINESS BEING ME!

So what if that client that said yes changed her mind? So what if someone said you were wasting your time doing what you felt called to do? So what if you aren’t sure exactly how to make something happen? So what if you are scared? So what if things don’t happen the way you want them to happen? So what if someone doesn’t like you? So what so what so what?? What REALLY matters is: Are you doing what feels right to YOU? If the answer is yes, then fuck all the other bullshit and keep on doing it! Things rarely work out exactly how you want or expect them to, and by holding on to the notion that they MUST is just going to frustrate you and kill you slowly, day by day. You can’t micro-manage everything - and why would you want to? Life is way more fun when it’s spontanious and off-the-cuff!  Listen, here’s the truth: There will be people who don’t like you. There will be people who disagree with you. There will be people who talk shit about you behind your back (chicken shit’s would never do it to your face, of course). As a recovering people-pleaser, I’ve learned all too well just how impossible it is to be liked by everyone. And as soon as I realized that, I stopped trying. I THREW MY FUCKS OUT THE WINDOW AND NEVER LOOKED BACK! I made the decison to show up fully, as me, and fuck what anyone things. I chose to speak my mind, and say what I REALLY think - not just...
STILL NOT HITTING YOUR GOALS? THIS IS WHY…

STILL NOT HITTING YOUR GOALS? THIS IS WHY…

Have you ever wondered why you keep hitting a brick wall every single month? You can’t get your income to where you want it to be. You can’t seem to accomplish all that you want to.  You can’t build what you want to build, or launch what you want to launch.  I’ll tell you why –  A lack of trust or a lack of action. Or both at the same time.  Because here’s the funny (and awesome) thing about life, about business, about success.. about all of it –  It’s actually really fucking easy to get what you want. Which means, if you’re not getting it, there’s something seriously wrong. And after working with hundreds of clients over the years, I can tell you with absolute certainty that the reason WHY is because you either don’t fully believe that you can have what you want or that you’re worthy of having it - or - because you aren’t taking the action necessary to receive it.  I think we all deal with some kind of confidence and self-worth bullshit, don’t we? Even if we’re pretty confident and know we’re a badass, there is still that tiny little feeling in the pit of our stomach that tells us we aren’t good enough.  Don’t have it all together. Aren’t allowed to have what we want.  Aren’t READY yet.  Aren’t smart enough, or talented enough, or pretty enough, or what-the-fuck-ever enough.  You know what I mean?  It’s like we just keep hitting ourselves over the head with “no”.  No, you can’t make that much money! No, you can’t work with those clients! No, you can’t...
THIS IS HOW TO BE HAPPY

THIS IS HOW TO BE HAPPY

I’ve been thinking lately about what happiness looks like to me, and it’s nothing like what I THOUGHT it was back when I was a kid, looking at others and observing what appeared to make them happy.  Happy is not having a “well-paying job”. Happy is not having “good kids”.  Happy is not living in your “dream house”. Those things can be a PART of your happy, but just having one or two of those things is not, can not, will not ever make you happy. Because in fact, MANY things make you happy. Many things contribute to your happiness. You’re just not noticing or acknowledging them. But one thing I’ve learned, and what I really want you to remember is that nothing can make you happy unless you know how to observe and acknowledge the feeling of what happy is.  So before you can even consider what PEOPLE make you happy, what THINGS make you happy, what EXPERIENCES make you happy, you first have to recognize what happy actually feels and looks like.  To me, happiness is when your face changes from somber to “HOLY FUCKING SHIT, IS THIS REAL LIFE?!”.  To me, happiness is when you hear or see someone do something negative, and 0.1 seconds later you’ve forgotten about it because you are surrounded by so much HAPPINESS, that your brain immediately dismisses everything but that. To me, happiness is when you wake up feeling EXCITED, looking forward to the day, practically jumping out of bed, instead of feeling anxious and overwhelmed before your feet ever even hit the floor. Do you know what happiness looks like...
If your goals aren’t FUN, you ain’t gonna hit ’em!

If your goals aren’t FUN, you ain’t gonna hit ’em!

I was talking to one of my clients yesterday about goal setting and how she wanted to be making more money in her business. I said “of course you want to make more money, but WHY?“, to which she responded with a list of things she had to pay for, one of which was a tax bill. I shuddered. Ew, taxes.  No one likes paying taxes, which is why most people who work for themselves tends to get behind on paying them or just gets really fucking annoyed about having to hand over their hard-earned cash to the government.  It’s no wonder I had a bunch of money in back-taxes due when I was in debt a few years ago. Again: ew, taxes.  As much as I hate paying taxes, and as much as I’m sure YOU hate paying taxes, that’s what we have to do. That’s one big way that we contribute to the area that we live. But here’s the thing: Paying taxes is boring. Paying off your mortgage is boring. Paying off credit card debt is boring. And let’s face it –  If it’s not fun, we don’t want to do it, and so we RESIST RESIST RESIST, and the debt continues to pile up until it gets to the point that we can’t ignore it anymore, which is when we get super pissed at ourselves for letting it go as far as it did.. And then we do it all over again anyway –  Because paying off debts is fucking BORING. So what the hell do you do? How do you pay off the debts you owe,...