How To Get Paid Just To Be Yourself

How To Get Paid Just To Be Yourself

Writing what you think and thinking how you write and feeling how you feel and doing what you feel – It’s all part of showing up It’s all part of your message Getting up, writing, sharing, BEING YOU – It’s all part of your message What you’re thinking about right now, what you really want to say, but have been shy about speaking about, THAT is what you really need to say. Listen, people aren’t expecting you to be perfect. They don’t expect you to have your shit together all the time. They don’t expect you to never make mistakes. They don’t expect you to never have a bad day. But they do expect you to show up and SAY SOMETHING. Every day. Because what you have to say, they need to hear right in that moment. Even if it seems insignificant to you, it’s significant to them. That voice inside your head right now is leading the way. Pay attention. It’s trying to take you down the path you’re supposed to go. Stop fighting it. When I tell people they need to show up and share their message all day, every day, they don’t know what that means. And when they do finally get the picture, they still fuck it up because they try to make the message come across “just right”. They don’t just speak what is SPOKEN to them in their mind. When I show up every day and write, like I am doing right now, I don’t have a plan. I don’t know what is going to come out. I just write. Sometimes it takes...
That Time I Worked In The Porn Industry

That Time I Worked In The Porn Industry

Yep, you read that right. Me. Porn. Nakedness galore. Here goes nothing… I’ve always been a very sexual person, but growing up, I thought sex was bad because no one ever talked about it. But of course, being HUMAN, I wanted to learn about it somehow, so I turned to porn.  First the freebie stuff on late-night TV (totally softcore) and then the free stuff online (totally NOT softcore). It showed me a completely different side to sex than I had ever thought about. And it intrigued me. When I was 18 or 19, I started selling nude and half-nude photos of myself on a “camgirl” website, sometimes raking in thousands each month. The more I shared, the more comfortable I got with my body and with sexuality as a whole. After about a year or so of working as a camgirl, a photographer reached out and asked me if I would do a photoshoot for his website. He offered to pay me thousands of dollars.  As creepy and sketchy as that sounds, something made me say yes. So, I met with him, brought my boyfriend will me (just in case) and surprisingly felt really comfortable getting naked in front of a stranger that was taking my pictures. I did this a few more times before I decided to start my own website. I bought my domain, had a designer whip up a design for me, and started taking photos and shooting videos like crazy (my boyfriend/now husband was actually my photographer and videographer). I created a membership site. For a monthly fee, members got a weekly set of...
It Makes Me So Sad When People Tell Me They’re Going To “Wait” On Their Dreams

It Makes Me So Sad When People Tell Me They’re Going To “Wait” On Their Dreams

Waiting until they have the money Waiting until they have more time Waiting until they get one more client Waiting until their website is finished Waiting until the kids are older They just sit around and WAIT. And it’s depressing and lonely and honestly makes me sad that these people aren’t taking action on what it is they want in their lives. Don’t have the money? That’s bullshit. We find the money for things we need. You bought those clothes you’re wearing, you bought the food in your fridge, you bought that car that you drive and the gas you put in it. You needed those things, so you found the money to pay for them. And you’re telling me you can’t find the money to fund your dreams, something you NEED to do if you’re ever going to be truly happy? Don’t give me that shit. There are plenty of ways to find the money for the things you want and need. Any time a money excuse comes up, it’s not usually about lack of money, but lack of belief. Deep down, do you really BELIEVE your dream life is possible? I’m guessing no, otherwise you likely would have made it happen by now. Do some serious mindset work around why you don’t believe what you want is within your reach, and then CLEAR THAT SHIT as quickly as possible, because I’m here to tell you that anything you wish for is possible! (And that’s not some wishy-washy statement, it’s the truth.) Don’t think you have enough time? But you have enough time for the crappy job you’re...
If You Don’t Do The Work, Don’t Expect To Get The Results

If You Don’t Do The Work, Don’t Expect To Get The Results

If you don’t do the work, don’t expect to get the results. The work being, of course: Owning who the fuck you are and sharing the real you with the world. Telling people what you think, believe, stand for, stand against, and so on. Selling shit you believe in, are passionate & excited about, and know will help others in a big way. Creating, creating, creating. And then creating some more. (Creating = sharing content. Sharing content = sharing your thoughts, beliefs, experiences, etc.) Continually rewiring your brain so you continually up-level your business, money, LIFE. The work of being YOU. Show the fuck up. Do the damn thing. I think people get confused when I say that success is easy, making a lot of money is easy, getting paid to you is easy. So easy that they sit around and twiddle their thumbs while they wait for everything to magically happen for them. What’s EASY is the being of YOU. What’s not easy, for most, is consistently showing the fuck up, day after day, doing the work to make their dreams a reality. And if you ain’t committed to that? Well.. the results you want are highly unlikely to occur. So before you complain that you’re still not where you wanna be, haven’t achieved (still!) what you want.. Ask yourself – Have I been doing the work? Really, truly going all in? Really giving it everything I’ve got? If not.. Time to quit your bitchin’, and get to work. YOU CAN DO THIS. YOU ARE WORTHY OF WHAT YOU WANT. IT’S ALL POSSIBLE FOR YOU. Do. Not. Quit....
Shame On You

Shame On You

Shame on you for not showing up consistently. Shame on you for not taking action every day. Shame on you for always thinking negative thoughts. Shame on you for bitching and whining about how you’re BROKE. Shame on you for not doing the work necessary to get the results you want. Shame on you for blaming others for YOUR failures. Shame on you for spending money on coaching or courses, and then failing to implement what you learn. Shame on you for giving up when things get hard. Shame on you for not FULLY believing in yourself. Shame on you for trying to do everything on your own. Shame on you for comparing yourself to everyone else. Shame on you for censoring yourself because you want everyone to like you. Shame on you for not creating and selling every day. Shame on you for not being yourself in business. Shame on you for doing all the wrong work and wasting time. Shame on you for not giving it 100%. And shame on you for complaining about lack of results. Because you would have HAD the results you wanted if you actually started doing the opposite of everything above, every single day and were CONSISTENT with it. And you’d now be shooting for bigger and BETTER results. Except you can’t. Because you still haven’t achieved the first results you wanted to achieve. And that’s your own damn fault. This game is not easy. It’s fun as hell, but it’s not easy. It will NEVER be easy. If you want easy, go get a 9-5 and let someone else boss you...