The other day I told a friend that I was scared of really messing up at the Toronto event this past weekend.
I’ve never spoken in front of a group before, and I was nervous as hell. I thought for sure I would stumble over my words, mess up what I planned to say, and make a complete ass of myself.
I’m pretty good at telling myself I can do anything. I’m an extremely confident person. And I wasn’t at all scared that my content wouldn’t be amazing, because I know my shit is good. I was more afraid of the delivery of that content.
For weeks, I kept telling myself I would host an amazing event. I would speak well, I would convey my message perfectly, and I would give the ladies attending something they were inspired by. I was confident. I was at ease.
Even the night before the event, I was still confident and really excited. I went to bed with a smile on my face, knowing I’m finally doing what I was put on this earth to do - teaching other women how to create wildly successful businesses and be financially secure.
But when I woke up the next morning, everything was wrong. I felt completely off. I wanted to puke. And when the women finally started coming into our meeting space, I had to run to the bathroom to hide for awhile. I was TERRIFIED.
“What if I’m not good?”
“What if I start to ramble and make no sense?”
“What if they regret coming today?”
“What if I totally screw this up?”
I gave myself a good pep talk and then got up in front of everyone and did my thing.
My first piece of content was truly awful, in my mind. I remember there was one point, about 5 minutes in, where I SERIOUSLY considered saying “I’ll be right back” and running away. I had to pause what I was saying, turn my back to the group, and write something on the flip chart in front of me, just so I could give myself a few seconds to calm down.
What I wrote didn’t even make sense. It wasn’t what I was trying to say. I tried not to make eye contact with the women that were listening to me, but I did, and some of them looked SO confused about what I just wrote down and was saying. I felt like SUCH an idiot. Like what I was trying to say just would NOT come out of my mouth no matter how hard I tried.
When I was finished and my biz bestie Courtney went up to do her piece, I sat down and watched her blow everyone away with her amazingness. She was so confident and everything she said made total sense. Everyone loved it.
We then took a short break and when we did, I took off to hide in the bathroom again. I wanted to cry. I was totally fucking this up. I shouldn’t have bothered doing this event. I knew I would be bad at it.
When I came out, one of the women came over to me and said “you were amazing, are you sure you haven’t done speaking before?“. When reading posts in my community, the women were posting pictures of me speaking saying they were learning so much from me and having an incredible experience. I couldn’t believe it - I was SURE they were hating my content.
I talked to Courtney before getting back up there again and she calmed me down, reinforced that my negative thoughts were all in my head, and that no one was going to be unhappy with me. And so I just said “fuck it” and went up there again to do my thing. I still didn’t feel 100% confident, but I felt better than the first time. By the end of the day, I wanted to keep going because I was just SO in the zone.
Clearly - mindset played a big part in my freak-out and it solidified to me that my mindset practice was working, because once I realized it was all in my head and that the women WERE getting a lot out of what I was sharing with them, I was able to completely turn things around, be more confident when speaking, and actually have FUN.
I know for sure that if I had tried to do an event like this a year ago, it would not have went as well because my mindet was all kinds of messed up. Now I have a solid mindset practice in place that has allowed me to get more work done, be more confident, make more of an impact, and make more money.
Every day I do a few simple things that change the way I work each day. I’m able to –
Get more work done each day
Create more HIGH-QUALITY content
Delegate more and more
Make a heap more money
Come up with more ideas
I remember last year when I didn’t have a mindset routine in place, I felt completely lost and overwhelmed. I had so much to do, but no desire to do it. I wasted most of the day binge-watching Netflix shows I didn’t even like and playing on Facebook, just to get through the days. I made decent money, but nowhere near what I really WANTED to make.
I was making thousands instead of tens of thousands. Then tens of thousands instead of hundreds of thousands. Now I’m making hundreds of thousands and on my way to millions. All because I changed one very important thing - MY MINDSET. Had I not, I wouldn’t be where I am today.
One of the biggest issues entrepreneurs run into is not being in the right mindset to attract wealth (and other things).
When you don’t have the right mindset, you can’t do amazing work, you can’t create content on the fly, you can’t impact the lives you want and you most definitely can’t bring in the kind of money you desire. It’s just not gonna happen.
That’s why I’m hosting the Money Mindset Experience on June 29th (that’s tomorrow!), so you can finally get your shit together and put a mindset practice in place that will improve –
Your content
Your offers
Your sales
Your clients
Your CASH
This is an experience that will change your life, and I’m not just saying that. If you implement and follow this method, you WILL make more money.
In all honesty, this work is easy once you know what you’re doing. The hard part is admitting you need support and then taking the steps necessary to receive it. Once you do that, there is nothing that can stop you.