That Time I Worked In The Porn Industry

That Time I Worked In The Porn Industry

Yep, you read that right. Me. Porn. Nakedness galore. Here goes nothing… I’ve always been a very sexual person, but growing up, I thought sex was bad because no one ever talked about it. But of course, being HUMAN, I wanted to learn about it somehow, so I turned to porn.  First the freebie stuff on late-night TV (totally softcore) and then the free stuff online (totally NOT softcore). It showed me a completely different side to sex than I had ever thought about. And it intrigued me. When I was 18 or 19, I started selling nude and half-nude photos of myself on a “camgirl” website, sometimes raking in thousands each month. The more I shared, the more comfortable I got with my body and with sexuality as a whole. After about a year or so of working as a camgirl, a photographer reached out and asked me if I would do a photoshoot for his website. He offered to pay me thousands of dollars.  As creepy and sketchy as that sounds, something made me say yes. So, I met with him, brought my boyfriend will me (just in case) and surprisingly felt really comfortable getting naked in front of a stranger that was taking my pictures. I did this a few more times before I decided to start my own website. I bought my domain, had a designer whip up a design for me, and started taking photos and shooting videos like crazy (my boyfriend/now husband was actually my photographer and videographer). I created a membership site. For a monthly fee, members got a weekly set of...
It Makes Me So Sad When People Tell Me They’re Going To “Wait” On Their Dreams

It Makes Me So Sad When People Tell Me They’re Going To “Wait” On Their Dreams

Waiting until they have the money Waiting until they have more time Waiting until they get one more client Waiting until their website is finished Waiting until the kids are older They just sit around and WAIT. And it’s depressing and lonely and honestly makes me sad that these people aren’t taking action on what it is they want in their lives. Don’t have the money? That’s bullshit. We find the money for things we need. You bought those clothes you’re wearing, you bought the food in your fridge, you bought that car that you drive and the gas you put in it. You needed those things, so you found the money to pay for them. And you’re telling me you can’t find the money to fund your dreams, something you NEED to do if you’re ever going to be truly happy? Don’t give me that shit. There are plenty of ways to find the money for the things you want and need. Any time a money excuse comes up, it’s not usually about lack of money, but lack of belief. Deep down, do you really BELIEVE your dream life is possible? I’m guessing no, otherwise you likely would have made it happen by now. Do some serious mindset work around why you don’t believe what you want is within your reach, and then CLEAR THAT SHIT as quickly as possible, because I’m here to tell you that anything you wish for is possible! (And that’s not some wishy-washy statement, it’s the truth.) Don’t think you have enough time? But you have enough time for the crappy job you’re...
If You Don’t Do The Work, Don’t Expect To Get The Results

If You Don’t Do The Work, Don’t Expect To Get The Results

If you don’t do the work, don’t expect to get the results. The work being, of course: Owning who the fuck you are and sharing the real you with the world. Telling people what you think, believe, stand for, stand against, and so on. Selling shit you believe in, are passionate & excited about, and know will help others in a big way. Creating, creating, creating. And then creating some more. (Creating = sharing content. Sharing content = sharing your thoughts, beliefs, experiences, etc.) Continually rewiring your brain so you continually up-level your business, money, LIFE. The work of being YOU. Show the fuck up. Do the damn thing. I think people get confused when I say that success is easy, making a lot of money is easy, getting paid to you is easy. So easy that they sit around and twiddle their thumbs while they wait for everything to magically happen for them. What’s EASY is the being of YOU. What’s not easy, for most, is consistently showing the fuck up, day after day, doing the work to make their dreams a reality. And if you ain’t committed to that? Well.. the results you want are highly unlikely to occur. So before you complain that you’re still not where you wanna be, haven’t achieved (still!) what you want.. Ask yourself – Have I been doing the work? Really, truly going all in? Really giving it everything I’ve got? If not.. Time to quit your bitchin’, and get to work. YOU CAN DO THIS. YOU ARE WORTHY OF WHAT YOU WANT. IT’S ALL POSSIBLE FOR YOU. Do. Not. Quit....
Shame On You

Shame On You

Shame on you for not showing up consistently. Shame on you for not taking action every day. Shame on you for always thinking negative thoughts. Shame on you for bitching and whining about how you’re BROKE. Shame on you for not doing the work necessary to get the results you want. Shame on you for blaming others for YOUR failures. Shame on you for spending money on coaching or courses, and then failing to implement what you learn. Shame on you for giving up when things get hard. Shame on you for not FULLY believing in yourself. Shame on you for trying to do everything on your own. Shame on you for comparing yourself to everyone else. Shame on you for censoring yourself because you want everyone to like you. Shame on you for not creating and selling every day. Shame on you for not being yourself in business. Shame on you for doing all the wrong work and wasting time. Shame on you for not giving it 100%. And shame on you for complaining about lack of results. Because you would have HAD the results you wanted if you actually started doing the opposite of everything above, every single day and were CONSISTENT with it. And you’d now be shooting for bigger and BETTER results. Except you can’t. Because you still haven’t achieved the first results you wanted to achieve. And that’s your own damn fault. This game is not easy. It’s fun as hell, but it’s not easy. It will NEVER be easy. If you want easy, go get a 9-5 and let someone else boss you...
10 Things I Learned About Business As A Female Entrepreneur

10 Things I Learned About Business As A Female Entrepreneur

I’ve been running my own businesses ever since I was 18. I quit my job at a local coffee shop and swapped my apron for comfy pajamas and got to work doing what I actually wanted to do and not what someone else asked of me. Over the last 15, I’ve had multiple businesses. Many of them were failures. Some were successes. In the process, I learned a lot about myself, and the business world in general. People will think you’re crazy. Don’t expect people to understand when you tell them you’re quitting your job to start your own business. Don’t bother telling them you’re going to work from home, doing your own thing, and making damn good money doing it. They won’t understand, and will likely roll their eyes at you when you aren’t looking. This is totally normal and to be expected. You will have lots of grand ideas, many of which will fail. Failure is a part of life, and even more so for the everyday entrepreneur. The thing about entrepreneurs is that their brain is always on. They’re always thinking of the “next big thing” and how they could turn that “thing” into a real, thriving business. As an entrepreneur, you are likely to fail A LOT. You will have failed strategies, failed businesses, and failed relationships. Again — normal. Failure leads to success. When you fail at a business, this just means you have to try again, because success is right around the corner. So, don’t let the fear of failure stop you from trying what you want to try. Your big idea could...